Tucci made me do it! (Aka Our city break to Rome, Part one).

Only in Rome is it possible to understand Rome

Goethe

Buongiorno, Hello, anyone there? Forgive me for not updating this blog in, wait for it, over a year!

Where the hell did the time go? I knew it had been a while but not that long. I keep searching the blog, adamant there must be a more recent post, but alas, nothing since February 2021.

In all fairness to myself it has been one heck of a year! The bakery has come on in leaps and bounds, we have a whole team of staff (managing them is an entire job in itself) and navigating the business through a pandemic has not been easy. I’m trying to cast my mind back over the last 15 months, a lot and nothing seems to have happened at the same time. It was a blur of bakery closures and struggling through staff shortages (covid), therapy (dealing with overwhelm), training two new bakers, a couple of UK holidays all while trying to exercise and maintain a social life. So pretty much the same as everyone, right?

But I’m here now, trying to get my head around my new laptop which is taking me some time as I usually do my blog posts using my phone. Insane now I think about it, no wonder I needed to start wearing glasses.

So what has pulled me from my radio silence and back to the world of blogging? That would be my recent trip to Rome.

Travel

On our way to the airport

I’m going to start with the getting there as that was what I was most concerned about. We had an early evening flight that got us to Camping airport in Rome at 9:30pm. None of this journey is of any interest but I wanted to highlight how easy it was. This was our first trip abroad since early 2020 and I was super anxious about getting everything right. I read up obsessively on all of the documents we needed to enter Italy. Some of it was a little contradictory but the thing that was clear is that we needed proof of our vaccinations and possibly a self certified statement to say we had recently tested and didn’t currently have covid. Oh and a high grade FF2P mask which I went out and purchased especially. I printed everything off, downloaded our vaccination passports, I was fully armed for every eventuality.

Friends, we weren’t asked for anything!

No statement, no covid passport, no test results. It wasn’t mentioned at all. We did have to wear masks on the flight but it could be any old mask which means I have a box of 20 fancy ones if anyone needs one. Pah!

And relax

Where we stayed

Usually I am the one who finds the accommodation when booking holidays but after the under stair cupboard with no natural light that we stayed in in Budapest, Joe has been a little wary of my choices (even though I found us some great accommodation in Cornwall). With that in mind he decided to choose where we stated in Rome. It was okay. Nothing special about it. A bedroom/dining area, tiny kitchen, tiny shower but the building was nice, it was clean and that’s all we needed for a short stay. The biggest selling point however was the location. Amazing!

We stayed in the Ponte district which is about a 5 minute walk from Trastevere (our favourite place in Rome) and the street we stayed on was perfect. We always use https://www.airbnb.co.uk/ when finding somewhere to stay and its great for finding information on what’s close to the area you’re staying. It was also cheaper to stay just outside of Trastevere while still being super close. The street we were on was Via di Monte Giordano and it was full of beautiful trattorias, a small supermarket and surrounded by other cobbled streets that were all full of cafes and bars. Everything we needed was on our doorstep and Castel Sant Angelo was literally at the top of the street, plus most other attractions were within walking distance.

Italy, and the spring and first love all together should suffice to make the gloomiest person happy.

Bertrand russell

What we did

Trastavere
One of the winding streets in Trastevere

On that first morning in Rome we spent an hour or so wandering the cobbled streets practically floating with happiness at how breathtakingly beautiful everything was. Every building, every door, even every wall was aesthetically pleasing. Peeling, faded paint in hues of pink, yellow and rust greeted us at every corner we turned, tumbling plants hung from balconies and windows, fresh water drinking fountains appeared, as if by magic, at the exact moment you realised you were thirsty. The sun kissed our shoulders as we made our way over the river Tiber to Trastevere.

According to Google, Trastevere is “a funky, bohemian area that clings to its centuries old, working class roots.” I don’t suppose that’s too bad of a description. It’s absolutely bohemian which is what we loved about it the first time we visited. It’s winding streets are full of independant cafes, art studios, boutiques and trattorias. The most effortlessly cool women stroll on by chatting animatedly to friends while smoking cigarettes. If Romans know that smoking is bad for you, they definitely don’t care. I didn’t see one person vaping or a single vape shop, I did see plenty of Tabaccaio, little kiosks dotted around the city and the only place that you can legally buy ciggarettes.

You will also find plenty of Basilica to visit. You can wander inside and gape at the jaw dropping interiors or maybe say a little prayer or light a candle if that’s your thing. I’m not a religious person but I would consider myself spiritual and even if you are neither of those things the architecture alone will be enough to peak your interest.

The Tiber
Sights and attractions

The reason we chose Rome as the first place to visit after the pandemic is because we had already been before and seen all of the major sights, which meant that this time around we could have a more relaxed time rather than rushing from attraction to attraction in the short amount of time we were there. That being said, because we were in such a great location, it was a short walking distance to most attractions so we did end up visiting a few again. It seems impossible to me that you could ever get bored of taking in the grandeur of the Trevi fountain or sitting on the Spanish steps and once you’re in those places, you may as well hop on over to the next as they’re closer than you think. We had planned on getting tickets to the Vatican museums but they were sold out but we walked around Vatican City anyway as we were heading that way for some awesome food. More on that later.

The Pantheon
The Spanish steps
The Vatican
Villa Borghese Gardens

While wandering around Piazza del Popolo we made a last minute decision to visit the Villa Borghese gardens. I am a sucker for visiting parks, especially in hot cities when it can be hard to find a shady spot to relax under. I must add that Pizza del Popolo is a beautiful open square and quite special to me as it was my first proper sighting of the Rome we imagine when we first stumbled upon it on our first trip. There are a couple of huge domed buildings, a church and the city gates. It’s a wonderful places to sit and eat a slice of pizza rosso while planning your next move. Our next move was an aperol spritz and then the gardens.

Piazza del Popolo
Piazza del Popolo

It’s an uphill walk to the entrance to the gardens but once up there you are rewarded with an amazing view of the piazza and the city. Full of lush green plants, statues and temples, its definitely worth a visit while in the area. There’s also a cafe, bikes, golf buggies and scooters available to hire if you’re already done with walking for the day.

View from the gardens
Campo de’ Fiori
Campo di’ Fiori
Fruit cup

You simply cannot visit Rome without sampling the goods from this bustling food market. I was pretty hungover on the day we went so I headed straight to a juice stall for a carrot, orange and ginger juice. It was so good and I swear I was instantly healed. All of the stalls are practically overflowing with fresh produce. Fruit, vegetables, oils, flowers. you can also buy ornaments and Italian crockery. It’s such an explosion of colour and sounds and if you’re anything like me you won’t be able to resist one of the fresh fruit cups. There are also plenty of places to explore, shop and eat while you’re in the area.

Ponte Sant Angelo
Ponte Sant Angelo

A delightful bridge that connects you to Castel Sant Angelo. The whole area is stunning, especially first thing in the morning or early in the evening. On the last day of our trip I got up early and took myself on a walk. I went to a little cafe at around 7am and ordered a cappuccino to take away. I was chuffed to bits with myself for doing that as I was so nervous about making an idiot of myself and felt like I stood out like a sore thumb. It was all fine though and the old boys working there helped me pick out the right coins to pay. Little things like that are what make my days that extra bit special.

I walked down to the bridge with my coffee and joined the throng of tourists and locals on their way to work. The bridge itself is strewn with tall statues of Angels, hence its name. Once at the other side, the Castel looms over you and if you turn to the right you’ll find a lovely tree lined garden full of dog walkers and benches. I sat their for a long while watching the city wake up and come to life. I always try to have a little time to myself wherever we go. Time to contemplate and enjoy just being. I also love the feeling of independence I get when I’m alone in a new place, its euphoric.

Ponte milvio and The Maxxi
Ponte Milvio

On our last day in Rome there just happened to be an exhibition on by one of Joes favourite photographers, Daido Moriyama. It was exhibiting at The Maxxi and as it was 32˚ that day I was looking forward to getting out of the midday heat and seeing some art. The Maxxi itself is quite a trek out of the city centre so we hopped on a bus to get there. While the exhibition itself was amazing I had a whale of a time in the gallery shop! Don’t you just love a gallery shop? you can always find a good book or some other quirky treasures that you can’t find anywhere else. I came away with a new tote bag to add to my already quite large collection of totes that I always forget to use.

The cafeteria at The Maxxi
My tote!

After spending an hour or so in the gallery we headed over to Ponte Milvio. We had already planned this out before hand because Ponte Milvio is where we stayed the first time we visited Rome. Its about 30 mins by bus from the centre of Rome and the walk from The Maxxi took us through a much more residential area. Full of scruffy, old apartment blocks, parks, and neighbourhood trattorias and cafes it’s a definite eye opener compared to the city centre. Once you cross over the bridge you enter into Ponte Milvio neighbourhood which if full of cafes and bars and where we ate some of the best food in Rome. Apart from the food and piazzas there’s not much in the way of tourist pulls but it is a glimpse into the life of the people and families who live in Rome going about their day and that is as fascinating to me as the architecture, if not more.

Coypus

I feel it would be remiss of me to talk about our trip without bringing up the delightful Coypus that Joe thought was a giant rat! Whilst walking along the Tiber one evening I looked down and happened to notice something swimming in the river. I get absolutely giddy at seeing wildlife so ran down the (approximately 100) steps to get closer to the river.

And that’s when I saw it, the cutest little thing. I followed it until it climbed out and it started drying itself off in front of me. It was honestly the funniest little thing. It seemed to be drying itself down with an invisible towel, even getting under its armpits. I posted a photo to Instagram and after a message from my friend Charlotte and a quick google, found that it was infact a Coypu, sometimes know as Nutria. I knew it wasn’t a rat!

Apparently they were introduced to Italy many years ago for their fur and are known locally to Italians as “Castorino” which means “little beaver”. Finding it honestly made my trip, has anyone else seen one in Rome before?

Anyway, this is where I leave you for now as this has taken much longer than expected and I’ve got nothing else done today!

Part two will be with you shortly, Arrivederci.

Love, Roxy

Let us never know what old age is. Let us know the happiness time brings, not count the years.

Ausonius

Five cook books I couldn’t live without (and you shouldn’t have to)

It’s Sunday evening and I’m sat in the studio while Joe watches the snooker. I came up as I thought it would be the perfect opportunity to write, but so far, for the whole hour I’ve been sat up here, I’ve pretty much done nothing. I called my Mum, scrolled Instagram, read up on my notes on “how to write a good blog”. Basically I’ve done everything I could think of to put off this writing process.

I do this with running too. As soon as I decide that I’m going for a run I suddenly have tons of things that need doing. Take this morning. All of a sudden I remembered that the bathroom needed cleaning and that I needed to smudge the entire house with sage right that second or I wouldn’t get the good vibes that had been promised to me by various woo woo accounts. (Not dissing these by the way, I love a bit of woo!) Anyway, you get the picture.

I did go for a run though, in fact, I had a really good day. I think that’s partly down to the fact that I had planned in advance a little morning ritual. Last night I decided that I would use the head space app as soon as I woke up to do a little morning meditation, that way it was done before I even had to think about it. I grabbed my ear phones and did 20 mins before I’d even got out of bed!

Then I came down, got a quick wash (gave the bathroom a quick clean) and burned some sage. I wafted it around my body as if this might give me some extra protection form whatever it is I’m protecting myself from. Negative energy? Either way I had a good day so it must have worked right? Then I put some upbeat music on (old Rhianna) and left the house. I wasn’t sure where I was going exactly but I ended up in the local park which was beautiful first thing. I ran back, beaming at everyone I passed and for the most part received some pretty blank stares. It didn’t faze me one jot! Once home I showered and made the best green smoothie ever! I’ll add the recipe on here actually. Then I drank coffee in the garden while reading A table in Venice. Ahh, and there we have it, the point to all of this rambling. Cook books.

I think I can safely say that I have a cook book obsession. I love them and find it hard to resist when a new one comes out. It’s really quite lucky for you, the reader, that I have bought (begged, borrowed and never given back) so many as I have learned the hard way that not all cook books are made equally! There are a handful that I come back to over and over and they’re the ones I’m going to share with you.

How to eat – Nigella Lawson

This is one of the first cook books I ever owned. In fact, I don’t remember any others before this and as I was only 19 when I received it, it was more than likely my first. This book is very special to me. My Aunt bought it for me and on the inside cover, written in gold pen it reads “Christmas 2000. Roxy. Enjoy-look after it, much love from us all, Dawn”.

I treasure this book. It’s falling apart at the seams, it’s covered in smudged finger prints on the outside and splashes of hot oil and splattered food stains on the inside but I would never upgrade it to a newer version as that in itself tells part of my story. It’s moved house around 5 times, even coming with me down to London. If I could only save one book in a fire it would be this.

This book got me through some tough times and also taught me everything I know about food. Not in a practical way but on an emotional level. I learned that not only was it okay to cook elaborate meals for myself but that I’m worth that effort. Cooking for just me is still one of the most exciting and caring things I do for myself. I don’t have to take anyone else’s preferences into consideration, I can have exactly what I want. Most of the time that thing is some kind of seafood pasta, piles of it with copious amounts of garlic and chilli and served with copious amounts of wine on the side. Just. For. Me.

The thing that I cooked the most from this book when I was younger was the Carbonara. It’s like comfort in a bowl and always reminds me of my Mum who used to cook it so often that if I close my eyes I can still see her doing it. She didn’t use pancetta back then, just ordinary bacon, she didn’t use fresh Parmesan either. It was that dried grated stuff in a little tub. I’ve never had it since but I swear I can smell it just from thinking of it. It might not have been a fancy carbonara but it was absolutely delicious and full of love. When I need comfort, nothing comes close.

The book is full of simple meal ideas for every occasion. Food for when you’re in a rush, food for when you’re tired, food for having people over (oh, the good old days) and food for little ones. It covers the basics like sauces, pastry, Yorkshire puds and the more elaborate sounding like, Choucroute Garnie, in a way that makes you feel that you could whip up anything with ease and confidence. This will always be my go to for comfort and pleasure, I hope it will become a favourite of yours too.

A Table In Venice – Skye McAlpine

I bought this book a year or so ago and it’s become a firm favourite. I can’t remember how I came across Skye McAlpine but as soon as I found her I quickly became obsessed! I listened to as many interviews with her as I could and lapped up her many stories of life in Venice and reminisced about my one and only visit too many years before. Her vintage aesthetic appealed too. Glamourous, soft, made up but somehow always with a relaxed approach and this is just her wardrobe. Her house is just as stunning, if not more so. At the time it was pink plastered walls and windows, now she has a new home which features bright pops of buttercup yellow and floral fabrics.

For me her book really came into its own in the first lock down when the sun was hot and I was spending most of my days cooking and pottering about the garden. All of a sudden I was able to live al fresco, something that usually only happens in rare good weather but in that first lock down every day seemed warm, bright and oh so long. We had drawn out dinners in our small yard (which, newly strewn with fairy lights and ferns, suddenly seemed warm and inviting), lingering over glasses of cold wine and plates of hot spaghetti.

The Tagliolini with shrimp and zucchini became a spring staple (as did bellinis) and at a time when we had been cut off from human contact dreaming of hosting lavish dinners or even just having a couple of friends around helped me get through those long week. And although freedom is now on the horizon, this book will remain a go to when adventure and travel call.

Eat – Nigel Slater

I couldn’t write about my favourite cook books without including Nigel Slater. His writing inspires me every time I set foot in the kitchen or garden no matter what I’m cooking or whose recipe I’m using. It’s especially inspiring when using no recipe at all and I’m scrambling around in the cupboards and fridge trying to pull something together. “What would Nigel eat?” is something i muse over quite often.

I imagine it would be a lonely leftover pork chop served alongside some steamed tender stem broccoli that he’d grown himself and had seen better days. He’d zhuzh it up with some miso paste and some light soy that he always has in the cupboard as a staple. He would serve it on a dark, ceramic plate and eat it at an old wooden table, a beam of sunlight streaming in through the small window, a small Japanese beer on the side.

The book, Eat, published in 2013, is the book I turn to when I need inspiration for a midweek dinner or quick supper. Each recipe is no longer than a page and you could barely even call them recipes, more short clear instructions with a side of inspiration if you need to substitute any of the ingredients suggested. It can be dipped in and out of, picked up and put down and I always seem to find something new. I absolutely love it and believe it’s a must have for any busy person who is fed up of takeaway and ready meals. Buy it immediately.

Slow – Gizzi Erskine

I will never know for sure whether I’m pronouncing her name right or not but this is the firdt of two books of hers that i own and i love both of them. Slow is the kind of book that makes you feel hungry as soon as you open it. Full of bold, deep flavours and warm ingredients that you know are going to taste good just from the photos. Think braised red cabbage, rich fish stews and creamy gratins.

My favourite at the moment is the Mallorca slow roasted lamb shoulder which is inspired by traditional Mallorcan cooking and tastes every bit as good as it sounds. I’ve always been a little fearful about cooking joints of meat but this sounded so simple that i just had to give it a go. I cant imagine an easier recipe for something so substantial and imressive. You just put the joint and veg in a big pot, pour in an entire bottle of wine and leave it for a few hours to do its thing. the result is mouthwateringly good. Tender lamb that falls of the bone and produces its own savoury sauce in the process, its delightful.

It’s not all about slow cooking either. In the recipe for crab linguine the ‘slow’ implied in the books title is in the preparing of the crab. It’s in the shopping, choosing, poaching and breaking up of the crab rather than in the cooking itself which is actually joyously and satisfyingly quick. Slow is a book for those rare long days when you have nothing ahead of you and no plans to keep you busy. The kind of days made for pottering. The kind of days that ought to be cherished as you never know when you’ll get another. There’s no chance of ever being bored when you own this book. Just time spent slowly slicing, deeply kneading and ravenously eating.

The Food of Sichuan – Fuchsia Dunlop

This last book is a new addition to my groaning book shelves. It was a birthday present from Joe after I’d told him about a cookery writer i had recently discovered who specialised in Sichaunese cooking. He couldn’t remember who I had said so bought me this in the hope it would be good. It was the exact book I’d told him about.

This style of cooking took me completely out of my comfort zone. I usually cook recipes like the ones from the books above. Bold stews, flavoursome pastas, roasted chickens. I’m so familiar with this type of food that I rarely use recipes, the flavours and ingredients are ingrained in me. Some of the recipe titles in this book blew my mind. ‘Silver ear fungus and rock sugar soup’, ‘Spicy blood stew’, and ‘Man and wife offal slices’ are a few I initially recoiled from. But the more I read the more curious I became about this unusual food. I headed down to the local Chinese super market with a list of ingredients. The first time didn’t go exactly to plan, the woman working there had no idea about the names of some of the ingredients.

After more reading I realised that this is Sichuanese cooking not Chinese and they don’t all have the same names. My second visit was more successful. The first thing I attempted was the Fish fragrant pork, hear me out. It doesn’t taste of fish but is seasoned with the same ingredients used for a certain fish dish. It was extremely good. Next I made fish fragrant aubergine and chicken, same name but two completely different dishes. It was even better! So good in fact that Joe declared he would never eat Chinese takeaway again. People, we had it two nights later! It wasn’t the same though and never will be. I cooked from it again, this time it was traditional Dan Dan noodles, again it was unbelievably good and unexpected as far as what we know Chinese cooking to be. Deep, earthy and fragrant is how I’d describe the food in this book. If you’re bored of the same old recipes and cuisines try this cook book. It will awaken your tired old taste buds and leave you longing for more.

I could honestly rave on about cook books forever but I think it would be better for everyone if I stopped talking and gave you the chance to try some of these for yourselves. Although amazon is annoying convenient and quick I would encourage you to buy from elsewhere. There are plenty of independent book shops online and if they’re not already, libraries will be open again soon. Or how about a book swap?!

What are your favourite books? Which recipes do you fall back on again and again? I’d love to hear in the comments or you can find me over on Instagram @roxyriley_flourandfeast

A life changing garlic recipe.

Okay. I know that’s a massive claim but I swear this recipe will transform everything you eat from so-so to bloody awesome! And it’s not the actual recipe (which is barely a recipe at all) but the things you can do with this garlic once you’ve made it. It can be added to so many things and because the garlic has been slowly roasted in the oven you don’t have that bitter acrid taste that you can often get when adding raw garlic to things. This has a deep, sweet, savoury flavour that adds depth and warmth to dishes, especially hummus or garlic bread.

As with any recipe it’s better to plan in advance. Although this is super easy with only two ingredients there are a few steps so give this a read through before you start. It’s all gentle and slow though and I find it a really relaxing way to spend some time in the kitchen.

Ingredients

  • 10 bulbs of garlic
  • 500 ml bottle of olive oil

Get yourself a baking tray/tin that can hold the bulbs of garlic and oil and turn the oven to 120°c. This is approximate as it depends on your oven, adjust accordingly if you know it runs hot or cold. It’s set pretty low as you want the garlic to slowly cook and not boil or burn.

Rub the white papery skins off the bulbs of garlic but keep the purple skins on, they’ll protect the garlic while it roasts. Once the papery skin is removed, separate the bulbs into cloves (in the bakery we use more bulbs than I’ve suggested here and it seems to take forever but this amount will only take 5 or 10 minutes) and add to the tin. Then the oil goes in, you need enough to just cover the tops of the garlic cloves. Believe it or not that’s it. Told you it was easy.

Now place the tin in the oven, uncovered for at least 1 hour and 30 minutes and that’s it. You can potter around, put your feet up, read a book or come up with some ways of how you’re going to use your garlic…

You will know the garlic is ready before even checking on it as the smell will be filling the kitchen. Nothing gets my mouth watering and tummy rumbling like the smell of butter, garlic, white wine and parsley mingling in a pan. This is a close second.

Carefully take it out of the oven and leave it to cool. Once cool take a sieve and place a bowl underneath it. This is where the fun begins. Start adding the garlic to the sieve a ladleful at a time and press the garlic into the sieve with the back of the ladle or a wooden spoon. Wonderfully soft garlic pulp will push pleasingly through into the bowl. When you think it’s all released from its skins, press a little more. My arms were starting to ache at this point but there’s always a bit extra to squeeze out. Keep doing this until it’s all gone and then add the garlic and the oil into an air tight container. This will now last for weeks in the fridge and can be added to anything.

How to use

  • Add to dips like hummus and baba ganoush to give a deep rounded depth of flavour.
  • Add to yogurt and serve with Turkish eggs
  • Smear on your favourite bread after toasting
  • Stir through green beans with some lemon juice or wine vinegar
  • Add to some Mayo for an amazing garlic mayonnaise
  • Add to a tomato sauce and serve with pasta or roasted meat
  • Mash it into potatoes

Basically put it into anything you fancy, the options are endless.

Right I’m off to whip up a garlicky brunch and possibly a garlic martini 🍸

Let me know if you make it and leave me a comment in the box below, I’d love to know.

Happy Sunday! 🧄

Everything I know about boundaries

Ahh, boundaries. They sound so uptight and exclusionary but they’re absolutely necessary if we’re to live happy and somewhat peaceful lives. I tend to share a lot on my stories about them rather than actually talk about it from experience and that’s because it’s something I have only learned to implement within the last four years. I’ve decided four years is enough for me to share the little that I’ve learned.

“Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”

Brené Brown

A people pleaser? Moi?

Before I had realised that boundaries were a thing I was often described as a push over. “Ask Roxy to do it, she won’t mind”. And it was true, I didn’t mind. I’d go as far as saying I liked my title of “push over” as unbeknownst to me I was also a people pleaser. As long as people liked me I was happy. But what ends up happening is you start to get tired from allowing others to walk all over you and as you start to feel the effects of others behaviour you start to get angry with them and yourself for letting it happen.

The thing about people pleasing is that you allow the behaviour to continue and therefore it’s not really fair to be angry with the people pushing your boundaries if you’ve never made it clear that you have any boundaries in the first place and how can you put some in place when you don’t even know what they are? Phew!

Confusing, right?

A few years ago with the help of CBT I realised there were people around me doing things that didn’t make me feel good. These were not being done on purpose which meant in order for it to stop it had to be me who made the change. And let me tell you, it takes a while. The people who are used to treating you a certain way don’t react well to the sudden change. They might keep pushing for the same outcome they used to get, but eventually they see that it’s not about them and they finally accept the new changes and their behaviour around you changes, even if they haven’t realised it.

Epiphany

“People can’t give their opinion if you don’t share your business with them”.

Nedra Tawwab

A big one for me was finding out that I was not only allowing my boundaries to be pushed, I was encouraging them. I recall talking to my therapist about a certain person in my life who constantly gave feedback that made me anxious. The answer was so simple I was shocked! She told me that if I knew this person always reacted this way than I should stop telling them things that I knew would cause this reaction. My mind was blown! So I stopped. I carefully selected what to talk about and I also stopped asking their opinion on certain subjects because in doing so I was creating space for them to give the feedback that I didn’t want. Unbelievably it worked! If you think you’ve been doing something similar, try it. I promise you, it works.

Speak up

If you avoid the conflict to keep the peace you start a war inside yourself

Glennon Doyle

The really important thing to remember about boundaries is that you have to put them in place either by asking for what you need or just creating some yourself. Then you have to practise them and stick to them. By asking I mean just that, say what you need out loud, calmly and confidently. If you don’t feel you can, this is when practices come in. For example someone keeps texting you with gossip/drama and you don’t want to be involved. If you don’t feel like you can ask them to stop you can just stop responding to those kinds of messages. Eventually they’ll stop when they don’t get the reaction they are looking for.

Where you can I would recommend that you ask though. An actual example that happened to me recently is that someone I love, respect and know is a kind person sent me a message that triggered my anxiety. Instead of being upset or angry (after all, they didn’t have a clue that it had upset me ) I asked if they’d mind not sending that kind of thing in the future without a gentle discussion/heads up first as I’d felt a little anxious recently and found it a little upsetting. The person was of course completely understanding and responded by apologising for upsetting me and acknowledging my request. Anxiety can fool you into thinking they may be mad at you but most of the time they won’t be. If they are, that’s on them.

It’s not me, it’s you

“No, is a complete sentence.”

Anne Lamont

Sometimes the response when you tell someone they have upset you is for them to feel attacked, maybe embarrassed. The ego plays a big part in this. But if we can control the ego and see this isn’t about us but about the person we have upset it’s much easier to apologise for upsetting the person or at least accept that you have upset them. I think this is a super important step in understanding not just our own boundaries but those of other people.

People who react badly to your boundaries are usually put out because they can no longer get what they want. It could be as obvious as they can no longer use you for something that benefits them, i.e. call you up to work with an hours notice or it could be something they’re not conscious of, i.e. their own need to control a situation that is halted by you putting boundaries in place. Either way, other people don’t get to choose what upsets you. Whether they are intentionally trying to upset you or not you can still be upset by another persons behaviour.

What boundaries can look like

  • Saying no
  • Turning off notifications on your phone
  • Not answering work emails after 6pm (or whatever time you choose)
  • Outlining to guests what is and isn’t acceptable in your home.
  • Muting accounts on social media
  • Unfollowing accounts on social media
  • Stepping away from people who drain your energy
  • Being specific about your needs
  • Asking that people don’t discuss your private life
  • Keeping some thing to yourself or people you trust to hold space for you
  • Making time for yourself

There is so much more to say on this subject but I’m in no way an authority. Everything I’ve learned is based on my own experiences. There are a couple of things I’d like recommend though.

Brené Brown is a professor, author and speaker who talks candidly about vulnerability, including boundaries. I love just about everything she does and I highly recommend looking her up https://brenebrown.com/

I also love Maisie Hill, author of Period Power. She has a podcast of the same name which has an awesome episode on Boundaries which you can find here https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/period-power/id1545856324

And lastly I follow Nedra Tawwab on Instagram. She’s a therapist and Boundaries expert and everything she posts resonates with me. You can find her here https://instagram.com/nedratawwab?igshid=q1t1u9iijxtq

If any of this resonates with you I’d love to hear your tips/experiences. I also promise to give more attention to this space. This is the first blog I’ve written in forever and it felt sooo good to let it all out and get it all down. So thank you for reading and keep an eye out for my next post.

Happy Tuesday and don’t forget to start setting those boundaries right now!

Love, Roxy.

The unexpected joy of running.

Humber Bridge run

I need to let you in on a secret. I hate running. Hard to believe really as I’ve done so much of it recently but it’s true. Or at least it was. I’ve wanted to be a runner for about 10 years. I’m not sure why, I just loved the idea of it. To me it looked like freedom. Maybe it was my anxiety that could see something in it, I don’t know, but every time I tried I hated it. It was hard, uncomfortable, I was struggling to breathe. What’s to like? I kept trying. I did a couple of 5k runs, I tried couch to 5k ( didn’t finish it), and went on sporadic runs. I have lists in note books and on my phone that say “remember to run” but it’s hard to make yourself do something that you don’t enjoy.

This week has been the most tiring I can remember. As well as starting work on our new premises I also completed a personal challenge of running at least one mile a day for 40 days. It might sound a little dramatic but this challenge has changed my life. If someone had told me I’d run for 3 days in a row I would have dramatically announced that I couldn’t think of anything worse. Because it was true. Running a mile every single day for who knows when it might end. Sounds horrendous doesn’t it? But what I’ve actually found has been so much more than running. I’ve found connection, empowerment, friendship, willpower, and strength.

Running on the Whitby coast

After trying everything to enjoy running and getting nowhere I saw a post by an new Instagram friend, Java. She had been for a run that morning and said she’d ran a mile. It was a quiet Sunday morning, I had no plan to run but this encouraged me. I suddenly realised that I’d been running with no direction, no real goals and therefore no real focus. A mile seemed achievable, I could do a mile couldn’t I? I got my trainers on and headed out around the block. It turned out that if I ran from my front door around the block and back it was pretty much a mile. Cool! I messaged Java and told her she’d inspired me to run and she then told me she was part of a virtual running group that ran a mile every day and asked if I’d like to join. I was pumped and excited so said yes. As soon as Paola, the organiser, got in touch and signed me up I instantly regretted it.

I’m a natural quitter, it’s my default setting. Knowing I can quit if I want to stops my anxiety from tipping over the edge. I’m very non committal because (as I learned through therapy) I have a massive fear of failure. So if I don’t quite commit to things I can drop out and I’ve not lost anything or actually failed because I wasn’t committed in the first place. Makes sense, right? So, I started to panic because now I was signed up with a group of people. I couldn’t just back out. These people were going to hold me accountable. As it turns out the only person holding me accountable was me.

First time cap wearer

This challenge was set up by a lovely woman, Paola, who is over in Atlanta, Georgia. Her plan is to run every day for 365 days but she broke it down into 40 day chunks to make it more achievable. As she started out on her own journey, friends decided to join her. Then friends of friends saw and they wanted to try too. It’s gone from Paola to 55 of us from all over the world and the premise is simple. We have to run at least one mile a day for 40 days. That’s it. We post a record of our run and a selfie to the group on WhatsApp and we then get ticked off. Omg. The tick ✅ We live for this tick because if you don’t make your run you get a ❌ It makes me shudder just thinking about it. The selfie is super important too as it holds you accountable and it’s so nice to see everyone else’s faces and to find out about their running journeys. I mistakenly thought the group would be the least important part of this challenge but it’s turned out to be the most important. I wouldn’t get up and go each day without them. The connection I feel from them carries me through each run and I look forward to seeing not only their faces but their surroundings and reading the day to day stories of their lives. They’re slowly starting to feel like my little running family.

The runners – Beautifully put together by our fearless leader, Paola Roder

So here I am on day 43. I made it to day 40 and I’ve decided to carry on running daily for now. It’s not easy and I don’t always want to go but I make myself go and I’m always happy I did. There’s a saying and it’s a cliche but cliches are cliches because they’re based on truth. “You may regret not going for a run, but you’ll never regret going for one” or something along those lines and it’s true. I’ve never regretted going.

Just in case anyone is thinking about taking their first tentative steps into running I thought I’d share a few tips and things that I’ve found helpful over the past 43 days.

Don’t rush

It’s taken me until last week to realise I was running too fast. I was burning out before I’d even begun and couldn’t work out why. I’ve spent the last week or so working on slowing my pace which I found surprisingly difficult. Since then I’ve managed to run the entire mile twice without stopping for a power walk and I feel great for it. My breathing is better and I can run further. It doesn’t matter about your pace or time for now.

Go easy on yourself.

You’re learning, if you do burn out or need to walk don’t worry about it. Since the beginning I’ve ralked (a combination of running and walking), I couldn’t even make it half way down the street without needing to stop at first and that’s ok. The most important thing is that you’re out there and trying. It’s not a competition. You’re ultimately doing this for yourself. Give yourself the permission to make mistakes, it’s how we improve.

Invest in good trainers.

Spend as much as you can on decent running shoes. A good pair of trainers makes runs much more tolerable and enjoyable and makes injury less likely. You can get decent trainers in the sales and most running/sports shops will do a gait analysis to work out which shoes will suit you best. If they’re even a little tight or painful don’t get them. Mine are Brooks and so far I love them.https://www.brooksrunning.com/en_gb/womens-running-shoes/

Stay hydrated.

I’ve always been a nightmare for not drinking enough (and no, wine doesn’t count) so I downloaded a water tracking app. It goes by weight and the amount you exercise to tell you how much you should be drinking and now I’m drinking enough other things are happening to my body too. My skins better, I have more energy, I eat less crap and my ibs is much better! After suffering with ibs and constipation since childhood things are, how can I put this, running much more regularly 🤣 It’s win win. https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/water-tracker-drink-reminder/id1404193468

Plan ahead.

Have all of your running kit already set out so you don’t have to think about it when you’re ready to run. Mine is basically leggings, T-shirt, bra, socks, trainers, phone and earphones. Don’t overthink it or you’ll talk yourself out of it. Just get your stuff on and go. I’ve heard the hardest part of a run is putting on your trainers and leaving the house. It’s 100% true. This goes for your route too. Now I’ve ran a few times I know my routes. I have markers to tell me how far I’ve gone and how far I have to go. The bush with the yellow flowers, the red post box, the house with the bowl of water outside for dogs. It makes my runs so much easier and I don’t have to think about them at all. I just go out and before I know it I’m back.

Warm up, cool down.

I can always tell when I’ve rushed out without doing either of these things. The run is much harder and I ache like hell when I get out of bed the next day. I use a 7 minute yoga warm up and cool down which stretches you out and feels like a lovely warm hug for the body. The post run one is my favourite. I feel like my body is crying out for it. It also means I get to do a little yoga each day too. Two birds, one stone. Yoga with Adriene on YouTube is my go to yoga platform. I love her. https://youtu.be/MKuZOwYukhohttps://youtu.be/MKuZOwYukho

Look after your boobs!

Buy a decent sports bra. You have ligaments in your breasts called Coopers ligaments that once stretched can’t go back. At first I was running in a crappy crop top and my boobs were killing me. Then I wore the crop top with a regular bra over the top which was a slight improvement. Now I wear a good Freya bra and the girls are going nowhere. It was about £30 and worth every penny. https://www.freyalingerie.com/uk/en/active/sports-bras/underwire-sports-bras/c/3007/

Music or podcast?

Listen to something educational or empowering. I don’t always like listening to music, I find it distracting, but a good podcast can be really inspiring. I recently listened to a whole book on audible and it made me look forward to going out just so I could listen to it. It’s also nice not listening to anything, just being present and listening to what’s happening around you. Either way here are some of my favourites things to listen to on a run.

Rangan Chatterjee- Feel better Live more https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/feel-better-live-more-with-dr-rangan-chatterjee/id1333552422?i=1000453721120

Running like a girl- Alexandra Heminsley https://a.co/6F8BTs0

How to fail- Elizabeth Day https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-fail-with-elizabeth-day/id1407451189?i=1000487164685

My Dad wrote a porno https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/my-dad-wrote-a-porno/id1044196249

Connect

Join a virtual running group. As I’ve said above I absolutely would not go out everyday if it wasn’t for the group and being held accountable. We’re different ages, sexes, backgrounds and even on different time zones but we all make the time just once a day to do something relatively small that improves our lives in a big way.https://instagram.com/roderroadrunners?igshid=1u2yussmdfl4r

Stay in your own lane

Remember, no one gives a shit about you. They’re all too busy worrying about themselves and even if they do look at you you’ve passed them within seconds and it doesn’t matter anyway! Just try not to run into someone like I did a few days ago!

Be your own cheerleader

Be honest with yourself. I wasn’t going to carry on with this challenge as I’d decided I wouldn’t have the time but really it’s because I thought I’d be too tired. Don’t tell yourself you don’t have the time, if you have time to scroll on Facebook for half an hour you have time to take 12 minutes out of your day for a run. If you just don’t want to then say that, it feels much better than making excuses.

And there we have it, my running journey so far. 12 minutes per day that have improved my health, mind, stress and confidence. So tell me, what are the small things that make a big difference in your life? I’d love to know.

Why I run

The calm before the storm

It’s Tuesday morning and I’m sat in the garden with a cup of tea. I always start my day with tea. I didn’t sleep well, I rarely sleep well but it doesn’t make it any easier. I’m tired. I’m also super grateful for this tiny little space. It’s a mess right now and needs a good sweep but the sun in shining and Margot is sat by my side. She’s a typical cat. She’s not a fan of affection unless it’s on her terms. I’m ok with that most of the time but sometimes I just want to squish her because she’s just so bloody cute.

I’m off on a Tuesday because we’re currently opening the Bakery Wednesday to Saturday. Times are still strange, things are not quite back to normal and I don’t want them to be. I feel like these few months have been the first time I’ve been understood. Let me explain. I’m an advocate for slow living. If you follow me on Instagram you will almost definitely have heard me bang on about it before. I’ve never wanted my life to only be about working. I’ve never wanted to work full time and it’s always been scary to admit that because before this “new normal” it wasn’t accepted. And with some folk it still isn’t. People are taken aback when they ask why you only work part time hours and you reply “because I want to”.

Real luxury is not working like a maniac to take an expensive vacation—it is living a life you enjoy every day.

Kathy Gottberg

I say that now but I didn’t used to. I used to come up with 100 excuses. Now I don’t feel the need for excuses but I do have reasons. There are many other things I enjoy doing apart from working, even in my beautiful little bakery. I could fill my days with them. Yoga, drawing, embroidery, cooking, baking for me, resting, reading, spending time with family and friends, spending time in nature, travelling, learning, crafting, gardening…I could go on but I think you see where I’m going. This doesn’t mean I don’t love and appreciate my job, it just means I love and appreciate other things too.

We may feel productive when we’re constantly switching between things, constantly doing something, but in all honesty, we’re not. We’re just distracted.

Leo Babauta

I don’t want my life to flash before my eyes and all I’ll have done is worked. I want to have lived it. Loved it. Revelled in it. Dived right into the glorious mixture of joy, pain, laughter, love, tears, anxiety. Don’t get me wrong my work is definitely included in this, it’s a huge part of life and allows me to express myself creatively, meet wonderful people and afford a roof over my head. But it’s not the be all and end all for me. Before, people would think I must be lazy, spoiled even “Who does she think she is not working full time (or more) like the rest of us?”. But I think if they looked deeper as to why they resent me living my life my own way, they’d realise it’s maybe because they haven’t even realised it is a choice.

I must add that I’m fully aware that it’s a privilege to not have to work all hours and there have been times when I wouldn’t have had that privilege (I was a single, skint, teenage Mum) but that’s a whole different post and not what I’m taking about here. I’m talking about people who could afford to work less if they took a second to realise that they can, if they want to, but it’s been driven into us that if we don’t have children or another responsibility we should be working, grafting, hustling.

Obviously, as I don’t have staff right now, less hours means less money, again, my choice. I’m happy to live a simpler life with more time. I don’t buy what I can’t afford. I’d rather go without everything I might want in exchange for the time I have gained. Of course this doesn’t happen all of the time. There are times I need to work full time and beyond to make my business successful and I don’t begrudge that, I know I’m extremely lucky to be in a position to have my own business but it actually didn’t come down to luck, it took hard work and I put the hours in and I’ll happily do it again with the aim of then pulling it back a little and having the balance I need to be happy once more. Because that’s the key for me. Balance.

Slow living is a curious mix of being prepared and being prepared to let go. Caring more and caring less. Saying yes and saying no. Being present and walking away. Doing the important things and forgetting those that aren’t.

Brooke McAlary, SLOW

So if you are feeling frazzled, you’re not enjoying your lifestyle and are longing for more time, have a little think. Could you rearrange your days? Could you work half a day less? Could you finish early? Can you save money elsewhere to allow you to do this? You might not be able to do it forever, you might not want to do it forever, but if you need it right now can you find a way? I hope you can.

I’m enjoying these days while I can because I know in a couple of weeks I’ll be back full time but I live in hope that people will remember that it doesn’t always have to be fast and full on. You can take time for you. And that’s not selfish, lazy, entitled, it’s necessary and wonderful and human. So whatever you’re doing today, working, taking care of little ones, home making, see if you can take 5 minutes for yourself. Have a cup of tea, enjoy the sun on your face, take a deep, full breath and be grateful for this moment, right now.

Marrakech

Hello! Oh my goodness it’s been so long since I’ve written a post. Since the New Year my life has been pretty hectic. The bakery is thriving but it takes a lot of energy to keep on top of it. That in itself is enough to keep me too busy to blog but then with general life maintenance (friendships, family, home, relationship) there’s not much time left for anything other than some winding down. I’ve had to make a decision to find the time to write because I love sharing with you so here I am at precisely 7:26am on a Sunday morning doing just that.

So, Marrakech. How do I even begin to put across just how wonderful it is? We got back a couple of weeks ago after spending a week there. Neither of us have been before and at the time of booking we had decided we wanted a culture shock. I love Europe, the beautiful architecture, the history, the food, but you kind of know what you’re getting and we were ready for a slap in the face kind of holiday and that is exactly what we got!

Where we stayed

As usual we decided to book our accommodation with Air bnb. When we went to Rome we made the mistake of staying in a hotel which is fine for a couple of days but after a week of walking we really wished we had stayed in an apartment where we could properly relax. Also the food markets were so amazing we really wanted to cook. Being Bakers/Chefs and not being able to cook the amazing produce was torture so we learned a lesson and since then have only stayed in apartments.

Our little balcony

Having never being to Marrakech but having done our research we decided to stay in the new town. Reading up on the Medina it sounded chaotic and I really wanted to be able to escape if I wanted. I’m glad we made that decision however if we decide to visit Marrakech again I would definitely stay in a Riad now I have a better understanding of the place. Just for the experience really as they look stunning!

Gueliz

Rue de Liberté, Guéliz

We stayed in Gueliz which was perfect. It wasn’t too crowded and was around a 30 minute, direct walk to the Souks. You could also hop on a bus for around 5dh which was about 40p. As for the neighbourhood it had pretty much everything you could ask for right on your doorstep. Boutiques, bakeries, bars, cafes, convenience stores, fast food outlets, a supermarket, chemists as well as high street stores like Zara and H&M. Believe it or not I didn’t go in either! The Ville Nouvelle (new town) is also home to designer shops and some of the best museums and restaurants in the city (which we’ll get onto later).

Because it’s a little more modern than the Medina (old town) you don’t have to worry as much about having your shoulders and legs covered as there’s a bit more of a modern outlook. However I pretty much stuck to it as I didn’t want to draw any unwanted attention to myself, especially as I ended up spending quite a bit of time on my own towards the back end of the week as Joe was unwell. Let me say this, I felt completely safe on my own in the new town but I’m not sure I would have gone as far as the souks on my own. That’s just my personal opinion. Maybe next time I would feel a little more confident having explored the place once before.

What we did

The souks

One of the first things we did was head to the souks (Moroccan for market) to see what all of the fuss was about. Sprawling out from the main square of the Medina are lots of little alleys known as the souks. They are incredible. As soon as you arrive you are hit with new sights, sounds and smells all at once but just go with it and let yourself get absorbed into your new surroundings.

Each little alley takes you by stall after stall of coloured textiles, silver and gold ornaments, bright leather babouche slippers, scarves, trinkets, jewellery, mirrors, spices…just an endless display of treats. All around you is the sound of horns beeping as people on mopeds wobble past you sometimes with their entire family on one! (We even saw a guy with a dog!)

Interspersed in this are guys with carts selling freshly squeezed pomegranate juice, or tables set up with the most wonderful tasting nougat and peanut brittle. You’ll wonder passed butchers and fruit stalls and a million wild cats. The dust will blow up and the stall holders will pour water on it to keep it at bay. Every person you pass will ask you for something. A smile, some money, a purchase, a look. “Nice to see you to see you nice!” said one gap toothed, leathery faced man.

You might have heard some horror stories about getting ripped off but keep your wits about you, keep your purse and phone safe and politely decline with a “no thank you” or a “la choukran” and you’ll be fine. Enjoy the experience, that’s what you’re there for aren’t you?

Jemaa el fna

This is the main square after Katoubia mosque and before the souks and it’s quite an experience. We came here a couple of times, once during the day and once after dark and I really recommend both.

It’s a wide open square that, as the sun starts to set, fills with more and more people. Women offering Henna, men huddled in groups playing instruments, snake charmers, monkeys on chains, men selling watches, women selling packs of tissues, men sending neon toys catapulting through the air, stall after stall of grilled food and fresh fruit juices and the many wide eyed tourists, curious to see this crazy, outdoor circus.

At one point we saw a huge group of people all cheering and walking over to explore we managed to look over their shoulders to see two small boys wearing boxing gloves having a match! I walked away as it was a little brutal for me but Joe told me they were really going for it! It’s like being on a film set. All around you the most bizarre scenes you can imagine and all the time people are whizzing past you on mopeds. Insane!

The Gardens of Marrakech

Jardin Majorelle
Le Jardin Secret
The Cyber Gardens
  • Majorelle Gardens – An absolute must visit full of stunning cacti and beautiful blue hues. Brought back to life by YSL (who’s museum just down the road is also a must visit). Wander around the gardens, stop and sit at one of the benches and take it all in. The garden is also home to The Berber museum which is worth visiting while you’re there.
  • The Cyber Gardens – There’s nothing cyber about these gardens apart from the fact you can pick up free WiFi there. Full of pathways, pretty green tiles and wild cats galore! It’s definitely worth taking the time to come here, especially to get a break from the hustle and bustle of the Medina.
  • Le Jardin Secret – Hidden within the souks inside a historic Riad. One minute you’re making your way down tiny, dusty alleys trying not to get ran over and the next you’re in a tranquil, herb filled, garden paradise with tiny turtles and bird song. We sat and had some mint tea and a bite to eat on the cafe terrace while we planned our next move. Definitely worth a stop while you’re visiting the souks.

Where and what we ate

I have to be honest when I say we were a little disappointed with the food on offer. Not in the restaurants but out on the street. We were really hoping to try some amazing street food but unfortunately the only places we found were in Jemaa el fna and none of it seemed, how can I say this? Hygienic? Yes let’s go with that. The places we did eat were great!

Azar

Cheeeese!
Lebanese dessert duo

We ate here on our first full night and it was amazing! Such a great introduction to our week of eating in Marrakech. We booked it last minute and were surprised to get a table as it seemed like a popular place. It was actually on the street where we were staying and once inside it looked pretty fancy!

We were taken to our seats and brought water and a little dish of crudités while we peruses the menu. We settled on a special menu for 2 people that allowed us to sample a bit of everything. We had 9 small plates of the chefs choice that included the best Baba Ghanoush I’ve ever had in my life. It also included hummus, a spectacular herb salad, and some little Middle Eastern sausages.

Our main course was a mixed grill which was really great but nothing to write home about and then the dessert! It was so delicious. A little Lebanese duo that consisted of Mouhalabieh (Lebanese pudding served with syrup with pistachios) and Mafroukeh Bil Ashta (semolina cake / “ashta”milk cream/ caramelized pistachios and cashews / confit orange zest / dattes and sherry vinegar syrup). Throughout the meal our wine glasses never went empty and we were entertained by belly dancers and male entertainers. Sounds dreadful but it was actually really good fun and added to the evening. It came to around £80 for us both including all of the food and a bottle of wine and water.

Amal

The Amal Centre

Amal is a not for profit women’s training centre in Gueliz that I was particularly looking forward to trying. From the street it doesn’t look like much but once through the gate you enter a beautiful little terrace full of orange trees. You can see the women working and it’s ran to a highly professional level with a daily rotating menu.

“Amal’s goal is personal transformation through job and life skills development for our trainees, a stepping stone to economic and social stability”

I ate there twice, the first time with Joe and the second time on my own. Bread and dips were brought to the table on both occasions and the first time we both had a simple vegetable tagine which was perfectly cooked, fresh and light. I felt like I’d eaten some real goodness afterwards. I also got a strawberry juice and Joe had a lemon and mint drink that was delicious.

Vegetable tagine

The second time I ate there was on my birthday. Joe was ill so I decided to go alone. Google maps said it was 7 minutes away. Because I can’t read a map I continuously walked in the wrong direction and walked in circles over and over. It took almost an hour before I realised I was going the wrong way. Once I worked it out it did indeed take 7 minutes. This time I had the sea bass fillets which had been dipped in flour first before frying and were served with a salad and a cumin spiced mash potato. I drank the fresh lemon and mint drink followed by a pot of traditional mint tea. The atmosphere is relaxed and peaceful and I throughly enjoyed both visits plus its unbelievably cheap. Less than £10 both times.

Le 68 bar à vin

We stumbled upon this atmospheric little wine bar on a Saturday evening wandering through the new town. It was cosy and small with flickering candle light and a great wine and snack menu. We ordered a sharing platter and let me give you some advice, go small! There was so much meat, way more than we could eat. The lovely bar tender did tell us it was big but I still said yes as I didn’t imagine it would be quite so meat heavy. Anyway it was lovely and the wine was great. Another thing about a lot of the bars in Marrakech is that you can still smoke in them. A lot of them have separate smoking areas, even in restaurants. I was so tempted to smoke (if I go to a country where it’s more casual to smoke I definitely will, just a bit) but I was good and stuck to the wine. This place is definitely worth a visit just for the bar snacks alone. Check it out!

Café des Épices

Rooftop view

I think this might have been my favourite place to just sit and relax in Marrakech. Based in the Medina this 3 story building has the best views from its roof terrace. I feel like we were lucky to nab a table as easily as we did because it soon filled up with people hoping to find a seat. The place is owned by Kamal Laftimi who also has Nomad, Le Jardin and Le Kilim, all in Marrakech. We visited them all part from Nomad but there will definitely be a next time.

I ordered the Harira which is a traditional Moroccan soup and a fresh juice (what else?) and Joe chose a salad. We followed lunch with some chocolate ice cream and a coffee that is locally known as a Nos Nos (half milk, half coffee). It was all good but it was really the view and the chilled out bohemian vibe that made it for me. I saw other people eating other dishes including sandwiches and fruit salads and everything looked great. A must visit while in the Medina if you can get a seat.

Le Kilim

This was my favourite of all of Kamal Laftimi’s restaurants. I don’t know if it was the time of day (I ate breakfast), the fact I was on my own or what but I just loved the time I spent there. I turned up alone on the morning of my birthday and asked to be seated outside. Though it’s right in the centre of the Ville Nouvelle it felt secluded as there was greenery separating the restaurant from the street.

I ordered a traditional mint tea (I became slightly obsessed with these), a mocktail by the name of “go away” which was carrot, apple and orange juice and french toast with fruit salad. It was all so good. Maybe my favourite thing that I ate. I sat and wrote some notes, face timed my Mum and just enjoyed a bit of solo time. Before I left I popped in to use the bathroom and it’s such a lovely space. Open, bright and airy with polished clay (which I love!) and pops of bright red paint. I took Joe on our last day for the same breakfast and it was just as good! My only regret is that we didn’t have an evening meal there but there’s always next time…

Le Jardin

On the evening of my birthday I managed to drag Joe out for long enough to enjoy a meal at this popular restaurant. Hidden away in the souks and set within the walls of a stunning Riad garden I can see why so many people love it there. Candles flickered, birds sang and the greenery was enhanced by the green paint on the walls. It was very “garden of Eden”.

I wasn’t feeling massively hungry but I knew I would have to have a starter because they served Pastilla, a traditional dish that I didn’t expect to like but had to try for myself. Made up of filo pastry filled with a savoury, spiced chicken or pigeon mix and dusted with icing sugar and cinnamon it sounded bizarre. This version came with a cherry compote and a sweet cream and I’ll be honest, it wasn’t for me. I found it too sweet and too savoury all at the same time. When they put it on the table the smell of mince pies was strong! So confusing.

Pastilla
Chicken and lemon tagine

My main was a chicken and lemon tagine and Joe chose a slow cooked lamb dish. Both were delicious but I was a little bit disappointed although I can’t quite put my finger on why. They don’t serve alcohol so we both had Virgin Mojitos to end the meal with. I’d definitely go back for the dreamy setting alone but it wasn’t my favourite of the food I had during our stay.

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The Parisien

Great place for breakfast on Marrakech plaza in Gueliz. This is the more modern shopping area with a McDonald’s, Zara, Monsoon, etc. You can sit inside or there’s a huge terrace area of the weather is good. We sat outside for breakfast on a Sunday morning and ordered The Parisien which came with coffee, juice, pastries, toast, jam, butter, honey, eggs and a fruit salad. They had a huge choice of breakfasts including more traditional Moroccan style dishes but this was perfect for us. If you’re looking for a good breakfast at a good price this is the place.

Al Fassia

The first restaurant in Marrakech to have a team ran exclusively by women, this was high on our list of places to eat. As it says on their website “better a reservation than a disappointment” so be sure to book in advance.

After reading lots of good things about this place I couldn’t wait to try it. We skipped starters as we’d already had a 3 course meal for lunch and went straight in for mains. I went for lamb meatball tagine and Joe had lamb with prunes. Both were super tasty although I thought my meatballs were a little tough. Joe hadn’t been well so didn’t want desert but I went in for an apple and raisin pastry with ice which was delicious. I also discovered a new love for Rosé wine which is totally out of character for me but I just fancied it and it was so good. Definitely a new favourite. The restaurant itself was quite spacious but oddly felt a little cramped at the same time, the decor and service was old school but we felt relaxed and were looked after. Overall we had a great evening, the food was good and the staff were all super lovely. The perfect end to a week of eating!

Shopping

Marrakech is the perfect place for shopping. It’s too good! I honestly wish I’d taken an empty suitcase with me to fill up. The Medina is a shopping heaven, with all of the souks you can literally find anything your heart desires however the new town has some great concept stores and independent designers which are definitely worth checking out.

Some


Some describes itself as a slow concept store and is jam packed with with beautiful products from many different designers. From tiny trinkets to hand made skincare products and woven chairs there is a ton to choose from. The store is light and airy and has a beautiful terrace garden where you can sit and enjoy a mint tea or cold drink. The owner and staff are super friendly and on hand to give advice, you can even get your goods delivered to the uk.

33 Rue Majorelle

Rue Yves Saint Laurent

33 Rue Majorelle is a gallery/concept store showcasing a range of Moroccan designers and local brands. It can be found on Rue Yves Saint Laurent in Gueliz and is a stones throw away from Majorelle Jardin. The store itself is beautiful and modern with produce that ranges from jewellery to homeware. Definitely worth popping in and treating yourself after visiting the museums in the area although bear in mind it’s pricier than what you’d find in the souks.

Beautiful birthday earrings made from bone.
Wearing said earrings

Ensemble Artisnal

Before you get to Jemaa el fna and the souks you will likely walk by a nondescript looking building stood alone. On closer inspection it’s actually a covered market within some beautifully tiled walls, full of lots of different independent stalls all with the kind of produce you can find in the souks but without the need to haggle. This is because the prices have been set. I absolutely loved this place and went a couple of times. I bought my babouche slippers here, a beautiful silver bracelet as well as some souvenirs to bring home. The staff are super friendly and not at all pushy and you can spend some time browsing all of the stunning merchandise. There’s also a small cafe within the walls so you can sit and eat and have some tea. If you’d like to buy some well made, artisan treats without the hassle of haggling this is the place for you.

Ceramics
Woven treats
Babouche slippers

Excursions

The excursions we went on in Marrakech were both amazing. We booked them with Get your guide (who we also booked our airport transfer with) and they were completely professional, everything ran smoothly and the communication was fantastic. I can highly recommend and would absolutely use them again.

Hot air ballooning

View from the balloon

We booked our first excursion before we went which was hot air ballooning. This was Joe’s idea and I really wasn’t sure about it. I don’t like heights, I hate flying, but I love an adventure so I said yes. It was quite expensive, around £260 for us both but worth every penny and you got a lot for your money. We were picked up, driven to the hot air balloon in an air conditioned car, provided with blankets, tea and coffee and given continuous information.

We were picked up early for this trip and when we arrived about an hour later it was still dark. A fire was lit outside and a beautiful tent was set up with seating and croissants and hot drinks. We then watch the balloons fill up with air and as it got lighter realised we were surrounded by other balloons going up around us.

Up in the air I didn’t feel scared at all mostly due to the confidence and professionalism of the guides. I was blown away (not literally) by the beauty and serenity of being up. It was perfectly calm and as the sun slowly came up, warm. Watching the sun rise over the Atlas Mountains I was quite emotional, it was just breathtaking.

We were up for around 45 mins to an hour and when we came down (with a pretty smooth landing) we walked back into the tent to find breakfast laid out on the tables. Fruit, hot drinks, juice, water, croissants, bread, yoghurts, omelette…it was the perfect ending to a perfect morning. The best thing I have ever done.

Atlas Mountains

We booked our second excursion while we were in Marrakech. We were picked up again but this time drove up to the Atlas Mountains and had the chance to explore some Berber villages. The Berbers are an ethnic group and they speak the Berber language rather than French or Arabic.

Our first stop was as at the Berber Women’s Argan cooperative where we saw Argan oil been made. It was fascinating to watch the women work and we got to sample some of the oils and some honeys. We also tasted Amlou which is a sweet paste made from ground almonds, honey and Argan oil. We were under no pressure to buy anything but of course I did. My Amlou is safe and sound waiting for the perfect opportunity to be eaten for breakfast.

Berber women making Argan oil

After this stop we went on to meet another guide who was taking us on a hike up the mountain to see the Ourika waterfall. It was so much fun. The guide was really knowledgeable and had lived in the area all of his life. He was like a mountain goat jumping form rock to rock and helping us out over tougher parts. We stopped for mint tea by the waterfall and listened to Berber musicians before carrying on higher up into the mountains.

Ourika waterfall

Just as we were starting to get tired we made the journey back down wandering through small stalls selling kilim rugs and jewellery and ending up by the river at the bottom of the mountain. We sat by the river which was full of make shift seating areas in bright colours, for a 3 course lunch before setting back off towards Marrakech.

Just before we reached the city we stopped off for a sunset camel ride and tea and biscuits. We were giving clothes to dress up in (I’m assuming just for the fun of it) and went of on a short journey. With the sun setting and the mountains in the distance is was bliss. I have to admit I did worry about the camels and how they are treated so I probably wouldn’t do it again for that reason but otherwise it was such a fun way to end the day and our trip to Marrakech. I would 100% recommend doing an excursion while you are there. It really broke up the holiday and both of the trips were so interesting and fulfilling.

Home time

So that’s the end of our trip to Marrakech. If you’re considering going but have being put off by the idea of being hassled I would say please don’t let that stop you. We had the most amazing time and as long as you are firm but fair you won’t have any trouble at all. It’s a place of colour, noise, fun, poverty, beauty, adventure and tea! So much mint tea. I swear I’ve never drank so much in my life, I was obsessed and even managed to find Moroccan mint tea in my local health shop when we arrived home. Anyway Marrakech is a city not to be missed so get booking!

Advice

  • First things first, get yourself the pocket edition of the lonely planet Marrakech guide. My friend Holly recommended it and it really came in handy. It’s up today’s and has some great advice and recommendations.
  • Always keep money and valuables out of sight and reach.
  • Say “no thank you” and move on when people try to sell you anything or ask you for money.
  • Don’t go with anyone when they offer you directions, they’ll expect payment and probably send you in the wrong direct just for shits and giggles.
  • Don’t stop and look at your map in public. (See above)
  • Go easy when taking photos of people, they don’t like it.
  • Just be confident in what you’re doing and where you’re going and be firm but polite and you’ll be fine.
  • Enjoy!

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Shoulda, woulda, coulda.

Hello! Happy New Year! How are you all?

I’m winding down and gearing up to go back to work after two weeks off! Two weeks off sounds amazing doesn’t it? I thought so too. After an extremely busy and exhausting few months I was totally ready for a long break. I dreamed of all the nothing that I was going to do. Pottering, drinking coffee, writing blog posts, baking and mainly just sitting around eating chocolate and reading, but it didn’t turn out to be as much fun as I’d hoped. Instead of a dream holiday I ended up on a nightmare trip trapped in my own head with only myself for company! Help!

Holiday purgatory

What actually happened between Boxing Day and New Years Eve was that I was stricken my pure panic and anxiety. What was I supposed to do with my days? I wrote lists of all of the things and did none. Where would I begin? What should I be doing? Shouldn’t I be out running while I can? No, I should be sat knitting shouldn’t I? But surely that’s a waste of a beautiful day. We should be out somewhere making the most of the days. Everyday I would ask Joe, “what shall we do today?”. This awful, continuous chatter carried on. My brain whirred with all of the things I should and could be doing and it took me back to a time of days off past.

I used to work 4 days and every day at work I would be tense and stressed at the the thought of all of the things I could be doing at home. As soon as by days off came I would spend them anxious and overwhelmed about all of the options. If I met friends on one of the days that would give me 2 days in the house. One to clean and one to relax and so on and so forth. I thought I was rid of this process, which I think is basically a form of my anxiety, but having so much time off over Christmas brought it all back. I just couldn’t get my head around just sitting and being even though it’s the thing I dream of every working day.

All the deserts

The first of my days off was Christmas Day which obviously kept me really busy so doing nothing on Boxing Day felt so good. But I didn’t actually do nothing. I washed and hoovered and mopped and sat and drank tea inbetween. I actually enjoyed all of the tidying because I knew I didn’t have to be at work the next day so could get some rest in.

I baked for love rather than to pay the rent.
Sorted the house
Hung out with the cats

New Year’s Eve was even worse. Surely we should be in a log cabin surrounded by all of our nearest and dearest, drinking champagne, eating lobster and setting off fireworks (did I mention I’m a dreamer?). We left it later and later to plan anything until in the end, in a grump, I agreed to go for some food with Joe. I text my little sister to see what she was doing “staying in and playing board games” was the reply. Pffft! I wasn’t going to let my sister stay home alone on NYE! I was suddenly excited, my life had purpose again. I called the restaurant and booked her and my nephew onto our table and then called her and told her to get her glad rags on (well, just to get out of her pyjamas).

Lessons learned

What started as a day of uncertainty ended in me wearing a crocodile mask and trying to munch foam fish up off the floor. It’s then that I realised that although it’s cliched, it really is about the small things. I don’t have to be doing all of the things or the best thing or be doing completely nothing. I just need to learn to be in the moment and enjoy the present.

On New Year’s Day I wrote a proper list of things I can and actually want in the quiet moments of my time and I started doing them. A long, blustery walk on the beach, dinner with family, house maintenance, reading, listening to podcasts.

I’ve realised that my idea of nothing doesn’t have to be actually nothing. I can walk, cook, read, watch Netflix, do yoga, see friends, clean the house, pop to the shops. These are all gentle little nothings that happen to be somethings and if I need tiny nothings then so be it. There is no right way to live, it’s whatever works for each individual. I need balance. I’m happy with a couple of days not doing a lot if I know I have something planned for later in the week. I’m hoping that the next time I have some time off I can simply enjoy it because surely that’s the point?

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A Christmas obsession

Christmas windows in Covent Garden

I unapologetically love Christmas! And i mean LOVE! Over the years I have thought about suppressing it as I hear people going on about how much they hate it and how consumerist it is and while I agree with the latter I can’t tell a lie, I bloody love the gifts.

Fortnum & Mason

Choosing the paper, deciding on the colour scheme, choosing a pen to write on the labels, choosing the labels, and obviously the gifts themselves. How can anyone not enjoy recieving a well thought out gift? Or seeing the face of somone opening something you have chosen especially for them? It’s delightful! BUT, for me the gifts are a happy extra. Its everything else that i love. The build up, the many weird and wonderful traditions, the warm glow of twinkling lights from peoples front rooms, seeing Christmas trees in peoples windows, the excuse to drink warm, mulled drinks and settle in, christmas films with boxes of chocolates on the sofa, people chatting animatedly over hot toddies in pubs where the windows have steamed up, the smell of a real christmas tree, lebkuchen, the feel of the cold air on your cheeks when you’re all wrapped up like a pig in its blanket and the sheer joy and happiness that (most) people seem to exude at this time of year. As you can probably tell, i love it all.

Traditions

Decorated trees in Covent garden

So where did this love of Christmas come from? I’m going to go straight in and blame my Mum. Our childhood Christmas’s were insanely good and i think its the memories of those that continue to make Christmas my favourite time of the year. Especially the traditions. Even as adults there are certain traditions that my family keep up with that Christmas just wouldn’t be the same without.

  • Christmas Eve Pyjamas – Every year since I can remember we got given a present to open on Christmas Eve. One year we opened these beautiful watches, one had Cinderella, the other Snow white. They were so pretty and my step Dad went mad! Apparently these were a really special gift that he’d wanted us to open on Christmas morning and we’d opened them the night before. From then on my Mum chose the gifts we were given on Christmas Eve and every single year it’s pyjamas. This started with just myself and my younger sister Simone, then Georgia came along so obviouslly she got them too. As we’ve all got older and had children, got partners, etc, more and more people have become embroilled in this. Once us girls were old enough to buy our own gifts we started buying Mum christmas pyjams too, lest she be left out. Three years ago we hit an all time low. It was my first christmas with Joe and my Mum insisted on Elf pjs. Thats right. Every single one of us, including poor Joe wore red and green elf pyjamas on Christmas eve. We’ve since gone back to regular pjs and its a tradition that I love and cherish and look forward to every year.
  • Stockings – Every year we have a stocking. Again, as we girls got older we embraced the tradition and now we all get one and we all open them together in my Mum’s front room. Mum’s stockings have always been weird and wonderful. Over the years I’ve receievd toiletries from hotels my Mum has stayed in througout the year, tins of breath mints, tape measures. I think the most outrageus was when she got Ethan (my son, her Grandson) a pair of boxers with Santa on and the words “Ride my sleigh” emblazoned on the band. #badgrandama. Most of the time they are filled with things that always come in handy throughout the year, socks knickers, mini toiletries, pens, pencils. There is only one rule, they must contain some form of sweet treat, a drink and a tangerine.
  • Breakfast – I’m not quite sure how we got to this but for years now we’ve had scrambled eggs, smoked salmon and bucks fizz. The bread is the only thing that ever changes and this year we’re having freshly baked bagels from the bakery. Yes!
  • Advent Calendars – I will sulk if I am not presented with an advent calendar come the 1st December. I don’t care what kind (although i do have a penchant for the cheap chocolate ones) as long as it is there and ready for me to open.
  • The Christmas tree – One rule. It absolutely has to be real. No exceptions. I love choosing my tree each year. I made a huge mistake last year in that I got one already netted without checking it first. Big mistake. It was ridiculously wide and the wonkiest tree I have ever seen. Always check it before you net it. Words to live by.
  • Christmas Dinner – I have never had dinner anywhere apart from my Mum’s. I cannot even imagine having one elsewhere, it just wouldn’t be as fun. I love being sat around with my family drinking wine, pulling crackers and reading out loud the rubbish jokes that fall out. It’s not perfect because we’re not perfect. People get tired and grouchy, grandparents fall asleep, someone snaps at another person but still, i love it. All those little quirks are what make each Christmas so special.
  • Breaking tradition – Since leaving home at the tender age of 18 I have returned to Mum’s every Christmas Eve so I can wake up there. I have always loved it. Even in my 30’s my Mum would come sneaking into my room to leave a stocking and in the morning the little ones would be up and excited, hair stuck up on end, eyes wide as they took in the grotto that stood before them. Fire and candles lit, tree shining brightly, presents covering every surface of the house, Nat King Cole quietly singing in the background. It is glorious and everything I love about Christmas but things change. We grow, we build our own homes and lives, we have our own little families and with that comes a whole new set of ideals and expectations. We realise that we dont just have ourselves to think about anymore, there are other people to think about and they bring with them their own families, they’re own needs and therefore new traditions are formed. The best we can do is to welcome the new, incorporate it into what is already there and learn to appreciate the change. Last year was the first time I had ever spent Christmas Eve in my own home and it was different but lovely. Christmas morning was peaceful, calm and still. I run my own bakery which is busy and customer focused, the calm was very much needed. We still went to Mum’s later in the morning but having that time before set me up for the day and I enjoyed and appreciated it more than ever.

Festive Food

Food heaven

As a Baker there is nothing I love more than festive baking. Winter food is the most delicious. Mince pies, stollen, trifle, mulled spices, gingerbread and stews. Warm, bold, comforting and soothing. Extravangance and simplicity. A tradition that I didnt add earlier is the making of the christmas Rocky Road from Nigella Christmas. Mum and I make it every year and it’s so good. It has all of the usual suspects as well as Ameretti biscuits and Glacier cherries. Its decorated with tacky, plastic christmas decorations and sprinkled with icing sugar or glitter (I go both). I also love the German Lebkuchen or Pfefferkuchen that my Nana used to buy every year. Fiery, soft, christmas spiced dough covered in icing or dark chocolate that cracks as you bite into it. I’ve never made them but I’m going to give it a go this year. Unsuprisingly I love Christmas cookbooks. Spending an hour or so with a cup of tea whilst going through the recipes is a favourite pass time of mine around this time of the year.

A few that I recommend

  • NIGELLA CHRISTMAS – Nigella Lawson
  • THE CHRISTMAS CHRONICLES – Nigel Slater
  • FEAST – Nigella Lawson
  • SEASONS EATINGS – Gizzi Ersine

All of these books contain some fantastic recipes for sweet and savoury, breakfasts, dinners, parties and drinks. Nigel Slater’s is particularly beautiful to read as he talk about Christmas traditions and memories as well as food.

Christmas Films

Elf or It’s a wonderful life?

Much to the annoyance of pretty much everyone, I love a christmas movie. Even the ones everyone else hates. Even the cheesy ones. It’s christmas for Santa’s sake! If we can’t indulge in a bit of cheese now, when can we?

A few of my favourites.

  • HOME ALONE
  • HOME ALONE 2- LOST IN NEW YORK
  • ELF
  • HOW THE GRINCH STOLE CHRISTMAS
  • ITS A WONDERFUL LIFE
  • WHEN HARRY MET SALLY (not technically a Christmas film but it has Christmas time in it and has all of the autumnal feels)
  • THE FAMILY STONE
  • WHITE CHRISTMAS
  • SCOOGED
  • THE NIGHTMARE BEFORE CHRISTMAS
  • THE SANTA CLAUSE
  • GREMLINS
  • SANTA CLAUS THE MOVIE
  • LOVE ACTUALLY

Christmas Songs

I bloody love a Christmas song (shocking, i know) but i dont like to hear them too early. Beginninng of Decemeber when im decorating the tree is when i start listening. Again, i know they’re cheesy but I don’t care, they make me happy. These are my go to christmas songs and I’ve even made a playlist on spotify. Just dont ask me my favouite because it would be impossible for me to choose just one.

My Christmas playlist

  • SANTA BABY – Eartha Kitt
  • FAIRYTALE OF NEW YORk – The Pogues and Kirsty MacColl
  • BABY ITS COLD OUTSIDE – Ella Fitzgerald
  • WHITE CHRISTMAS – The Drifters
  • MERRY CHRITSMAS EVERYONE – Shaking Stevns
  • ALL I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS IS YOU- Mariah Carey
  • SLEIGH RIDE – The Ronettes
  • STOP THE CAVALRY – Jona Lewie
  • SANTA CLAUS IS COMING TO TOWN – Bing Crosby
  • ROCKING AROUND THE CHRISTMAS TREE – Brenda Lee
  • JINGLE BELL ROCK – Hall and Oates
  • IN DULCE JUBILO – Mike Oldfield
  • LET IT SNOW! LET IT SNOW! LET IT SNOW! – Dean Martin
  • WINTER WONDERLAND – The Andrews Sisters
  • HAVE YOURSELF A MERRY LITTLE CHRISTMAS – Judy Garland
  • CHRISTMAS TIME – The Darkness
  • WHAT ARE YOU DOING NEW YEARS EVE – Ella Fitzgerald
  • O HOLY NIGHT – Adolphe Adam
  • CAROL OF THE BELLS – Mykola Dymtrovych Leontovych

Listen to my playlist here

Things to remember at Christmas time

Although I love this time of year I’m aware that it’s not as easy or as much fun for everyone and that I’m extremely fortunate to be able to celebrate this time. It can be an incredibly lonely and hard time for a lot of people so I’m going to leave you with a few self care tips to help you or someone else get through a difficult time.

  • The comedian, Sarah Millican, launched an amazing campaign a few years ago for people feeling lonely or who are alone at Christmas. On the day you can go onto Twitter and find #joinin which links everybody up. It’s such a wonderful thing to come from social media and gives people the opportunity to connect with like minded people and have a chat.
  • Not everyone has a social media account. Look out for people who you know are alone and won’t get to speak to anyone. Call an elderly relative, invite a friend for dinner who you know needs cheering up or just post your neighbour a card through the letterbox. Everyone feels better knowing someone cares
  • Don’t feel forced into things that you are uncomfortable with. You don’t have to spend time with family or friends if you don’t want to. No one has the right to push you into situations that make you feel bad, Christmas or not.
  • Remember to take time out for yourself. Christmas can be really overwhelming with all of the people and the noise. Especially if you’re an introvert. If you really have to be around people set boundaries and time limits. If the other people aren’t happy to compromise I’m afraid the problem lies with them, not you.
  • Don’t spend money you haven’t got. Real friends and family will understand. Bake some Christmas cookies (no one is offended by cookies), if you can, give your time to someone, get crafty and make gifts (Pinterest has tons of lovely home made gift ideas). If you can’t do any of the above that’s still ok. Buying/giving gifts isn’t what makes you a good person so try not to worry about it.
  • Celebrate Jomo instead of dwelling in Fomo. Just because people are posting the right pictures on social media it doesn’t mean they’re actually having a better time than you or happy. If you want to sit in your pyjamas all evening eating Quality streets and watching Bridget Jones, that is your prerogative.
  • Take care of yourself. Rest when you can, try and get out in nature (even just a walk around the block), take social media and electronic breaks and stay hydrated. Christmas doesn’t have to be a big deal, make it your own or ignore it completely. It’s just one day after all.

I hope you enjoyed reading about how much I love celebrating this time of year. If you want me I’ll be down the pub drinking mulled wines or curled up on the sofa with my cat. How do you feel about this time of year? Are you a fan or not?

Book shop in Piccadilly
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The windows of Fortnum and Mason
Ice skating at Somerset House

The Bakery

One thing I haven’t talked about on here is my bakery, Flour and Feast. As it will be our first year anniversary tomorrow I thought now would be the perfect time to tell you all a little bit about it and what I do.

Who?

Joe and I opened the bakery last year after many combined years of working for others within the food industry. We had worked as chefs and bakers and although working for others is a great way to gain experience, you don’t have the freedom to do your own thing and we were ready to do our own thing. After a short stint working as a Head Baker for Gails Bakery I knew that i would one day like to set up on my own. The opportunity came much quicker than I anticipated. In London there are bakeries practically on every corner and in Hull I could think of one. One. In the whole of the city and hardly anyone knew about the one that existed. At home, week after week, my heart sank as beautiful breakfasts were served on top of part baked baguettes (get the violins out) and we realised that the only way to eat good bread in this town was to make it ourselves! When the opportunity came to set up on our own we jumped at the chance. We had no idea how it would work but we knew we had to at least give it a try. It was hard work and took months of planning, risk assessments, funding (and for me, therapy, but that’s a whole other blog post) but we finally opened on the 12th November 2018

How?

“…you just have to start. Period.”

There is actually a lot of help out there, its just knowing where to find it.

When we were first asked if we were interested in setting up the bakery our first thought was that we couldn’t afford it. I’d just moved back from London, neither of us had massive savings, it seemed pretty impossible that we could get the money together. Fortunately there are people who want to help. The old town grant scheme in Hull offers funding opportunities for new businesses setting up in the area. This is available at all different levels for start ups and existing businesses. Check out Hull City Council for more information.

We also had help from the job centre who told us about NEA, The New Enterprise Allowance, which was a huge support. We had to attend a couple of business workshops and go to the job centre every couple of weeks up until trading but in exchange we got weekly financial help for the first 6 months of trading. You also get a free business advisor for a year! We would never have known about this if we hadn’t asked so its definitely worth making an appointment with your local job centre.

We also took out a small amount on credit card and, importantly, made do with what we could afford. We started with basic equipment and have been adding and upgrading ever since. You don’t have to start with everything in place, you just have to start. Period.

What?

First and foremost we are a Bakery. We have two industrial ovens and a very large buffalo planetary mixer. We started off with one oven, a Mono, and bought a Rofco bread oven a few months ago. We bake every day, morning and afternoon and everything is made on site. Pesto, jam, custard, bread, kimchi, coleslaw, marshmallow fluff, soup, hummus, granola….if we’re selling it, we’ve made it. We have a good range of sweet and savoury products and we also do outside catering for weddings as well as providing desserts for Two Rivers restaurant at The Deep. It’s hard work and we work long days but we enjoy working for ourselves and exploring different avenues that we might not have had the opportunity to do working for someone else. We try to be sustainable and use local ingredients were we can including Cherry view milk and Bradshaws flour. We’re also a part of Refill so you can fill up water bottles, cups, basically any receptacle, whenever you like.

Our daily bread

The bread is Joe’s thing and he is excellent. He understands it in a way i never could and he is serious about it. People often wonder why our bread comes out late and the answer is as we’re based within a council ran market we can only work within their opening times and as you may or may not know, bread likes to take its time. We also leave our bread to ferment overnight to incorporate a really important stage of fermentation that is missed out of a lot of mass produced bread. Properly developing bread means that the natural bacteria that develops neutralises the phytic acid, therefore making it easier to digest. Even for those that are gluten sensitive. Most of the time those people are not directly affected by the gluten but by the fast process in which mass produced bread is made.

Where?

We are based in Trinity Market in Hull, East Yorkshire. The market recently had some development funding and has gone through a couple of revamps over the years. The traders are old and new and there is a huge variety of produce on offer. There’s a butchers, a fabulous grocery stall that always has the best seasonal ingredients, a chocolatiers, an eco shop, a key cutter…basically anything you want you can find in the market. Not forgetting Hepworths arcade which has a lovely independent book shop, some great vintage stores and its own Gin school!

Customers

Last, but most definitely not least we have some absolutely lovely customers. I’d probably go as far as calling some of them friends now. They cheer me up on hard days, share stories with me, post photos of their kids eating our food and always encourage us with their lovely comments and positive words. The bakery literally couldn’t continue without them and we’re super grateful for their support and custom. Just one little like on social media or one kind word makes a massive difference.

So there you have it! A little about my job and my business. I would love to meet you so come visit us at the bakery, and if you happen to pop by tomorrow, wish us a happy first birthday! 🎉